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Ken Story, Fargo, Published September 21 2013

Letter: Hope that incident can be a lesson

I write this in hope that the gentleman whom I had this encounter with will read this and others who speak like him learn something from this.

Sunday night, I was at a going-away party for a friend at an establishment in downtown Fargo, and they happened to have one of those electronic jukeboxes. I went up and put a dollar in the machine and was searching for a song when I hear “Don’t play any gay stuff.” He actually didn’t say stuff, but an expletive that adults sometimes say when we drop our keys.

Was it how I was dressed? Or that I embraced a male friend with a hug? I turned around and engaged this individual and eventually got an apology out of him, after he tried placing blame for the statement on the guy next to him.

I accepted your apology on Sunday, but in retrospect, I don’t want an apology. I want you to change the way you use your words. I am oftentimes guilty of the same thing, and it is a continual process for me to keep words that can hurt others to myself. We are all humans, and we all make mistakes. I hope this is one of them for you.

In light of the racial slurs regarding the newly crowned Miss America Nina Davuluri, I am reminded that we need to be better to each other as a society. Each of us is subject to scrutiny daily for what makes us different, there is beauty in diversity, and I love that our country is called the “Melting Pot.”

Oh, in case you were wondering, I was going to play a Drake song. But I hope you enjoyed the Cher I selected for your listening pleasure, sir.