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Tracy Frank, Published October 18 2012

5 Things Friday: Five ways to escape a bad date

FARGO – A first date can be an exciting experience filled with anticipation and possibility. But it can also be a dreadful affair that has you counting down the minutes until it’s over.

If you find yourself in the middle of a truly terrible date, relationship expert Rachel DeAlto says you don’t have to just wish for a way out of it.

Here are five tips from DeAlto on how to effectively and confidently get out of a bad date.

1. Be honest, but be nice

While it might be tempting, do not run to the bathroom and never return. Tell your date that you just don’t feel the chemistry and that you think it would be best to not waste an entire night.

2. Always do coffee first

If you haven’t met before in person, don’t start off with a fancy five-course meal. Go for a cappuccino or a quick martini, and then plan a dinner. It’s a lot easier to cut short a cup of coffee.

3. Put them in the friend zone

If you’re not feeling the spark, tell your date you think the two of you could be great friends. Nothing will kill the mood faster, DeAlto says.

4. Create a (believable) excuse

If honesty is too hard to dish out, create an excuse to cut the night short. Tell your date you have to get home to finish a presentation for work or that you have to wake up early to take your friend to the airport.

5. Plant a phone call

It’s an old trick, but it’s one that works. Have a friend or your mom call you 30 to 40 minutes after the date is supposed to start. If the date is not going well, pretend she needs your help immediately. DeAlto admits it’s a completely passive-aggressive move, but says it will spare your date’s feelings.

Of course, if your date calls for a second date, you’re going to have to be honest and admit you just don’t feel a connection.

DeAlto is the Founder and CEO of FlipMe Flirting Cards, which she developed to bring flirting back to the real world and empower women to get in touch with their sassy side, a news release stated.


Readers can reach Forum reporter Tracy Frank at (701) 241-5526