Miss Manners, Judith Martin, Published September 08 2012
Miss Manners: Forewarned is forearmed when it comes to musicDEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I are attending a 50th birthday party for his brother-in-law. My husband wants to bring his guitar along, although he has not been asked to do so. It seems very presumptuous to me, and selfish. Help!
GENTLE READER: It might help if you offered your husband a little musical treat: Gracie Fields singing “I Took Me Harp to a Party (but Nobody Asked Me to Play).”
Miss Manners finds herself especially moved by the lines, “I felt so ashamed of not striking a note/That I tried to hide the thing under me coat.”
If that doesn’t discourage him, you might persuade your husband to tell his sister or brother-in-law what he plans. For all you know, they will be delighted. At the very least, they will be warned.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: How long should a grieving widow remain chaste?
GENTLE READER: That is not for Miss Manners to say. However, she does believe that a year is a proper time for a widow to be discreet.
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