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Sherri Richards, Published May 10 2011

Parenting Perspectives: Less to sweat in second pregnancy

As I progress through my second pregnancy, more than three years removed from my first, I’m struck by the differences between the two.

I’m carrying lower.

My stomach grew bigger much sooner.

I’ve felt a lot sicker.

A few people have credited the distinct experiences to carrying a boy versus a girl. Some of the differences can be attributed to changes in medical technologies or guidelines.

For example, there are new recommendations for diagnosing gestational diabetes, making it more likely pregnant women will be diagnosed with the disease.

One pleasant change was when I scheduled my mid-March ultrasound. Unlike in late 2007, I didn’t need to drink roughly a gallon of water before the appointment. The scheduler didn’t explain why, and I wasn’t about to question her.

Less pleasant was the scare the ultrasound gave us this time, when it revealed a potential marker for a chromosomal abnormality. Thankfully a follow-up scan last month showed everything was fine with our baby boy.

But what most distinguishes this pregnancy from my last is the fact that I have been there, delivered that.

You could say I’ve taken on a bit of a veteran’s attitude. It’s not that I don’t care, but the worry and obsessive tendencies that marked my first pregnancy are absent.

This seems to be a universal experience among my mommy friends. You stop sweating the small stuff, so to speak. (Which is good, because with an August due date, I’ll be sweating enough as it is.)

Here are a few examples of the “been there, done that” differences, drawn from my personal experiences:

Sherri Richards is pregnant, has a 3-year-old daughter, and works for The Forum. She blogs at http://topmom.areavoices.com